Well, if there was ever a type you wanted to take care of things, this is it!

ESTJ’s are practical, reliable, rule following people. I have often correlated Love Languages to types and I would bet my right arm at least 90% of ESTJ’s have one of their top Love Languages as “Acts of Service”.

Good go-to, getter-doner people. 🙂

As you know, I am sending each of the 16 cars for the next 16 weeks (we are on 14 of 16) to help you learn about each type and see if you can identify friends and family like this so you can better understand them. Type is ALL about better understanding ourselves and others so we can live our best lives and have amazing relationships!!

So far we have covered all of the Introverted Types:

Extroverted Types:

You can go back and read the others if you missed them.

Today’s is ESTJ – The Guardian

Driver: Your best self


  • You are happy when everything is in order
  • You organize both people and things to achieve a purpose
  • You use logic and reasoning with others
  • You direct action and make impersonal decisions
  • You collect information in an orderly way
  • You solve problems in a systematic manner

Copilot: What the world sees of you, your second-best self


  • You have an internal library of detailed personal knowledge, facts, feelings, sensations and information gleaned from experiences
  • You have an internal storehouse of data and details (internal file cabinet)
  • You enjoy rituals and traditions like holidays and birthdays
  • Day-to-day routine makes you happy
  • You’re a stickler for details and data

Drunk Uncle in the Back Seat: Things you suck at and should NOT be doing


  • Forcing yourself to explore new ideas, new people and possibilities
  • Forcing yourself to be more imaginative, inventive and innovative
  • Trying to see the big picture
  • Spending time trying to energize people
  • Seeing what possibilities may exist in the future
  • Playing “what if” games with Intuitive Types
  • Trying to think outside the box
  • You need to have people in your life to help you see possibilities and alternatives since this is an area you are going to struggle with

Baby in the Back Seat: Where you go under deep stress or when someone has hurt you


  • You retreat from the world
  • You may not want to get out of bed
  • You feel very emotional and overwhelmed by your emotions
  • You feel deeply hurt
  • You’re emotionally distraught and withdrawn behavior worries people in your life