ESFJ’s have got to be one of the nicest, most reliable, loving of all the types. As SJ’s they are very regimented in their lives and the feeling allows them to lead with their hearts so that combo makes them excellent Caregives and their title indicates.

As you know, I am sending each of the 16 cars for the next 16 weeks (we are on 15 of 16) to help you learn about each type and see if you can identify friends and family like this so you can better understand them. Type is ALL about better understanding ourselves and others so we can live our best lives and have amazing relationships!!

So far we have covered all of the Introverted Types:

Extroverted Types:

You can go back and read the others if you missed them.

Today’s is ESFJ – The Caregiver

Driver: Your best self


  • You reach out to attach and interact with other living things
  • You nurture relationships and connections
  • You validate and value others
  • You encourage, coach, educate and motivate
  • You protect, help and take care of people and things
  • You’re all about collaboration
  • You seek harmony in interpersonal relationships

Copilot: What the world sees of you, your second-best self


  • You have an internal library of detailed personal knowledge, facts, feelings, sensations and information gleaned from experiences
  • You have a vast internal storehouse of data and details (internal file cabinet)
  • You enjoy rituals and traditions like holidays and birthdays
  • You thrive in a day-to-day routine
  • You’re a stickler for details and data

Drunk Uncle in the Back Seat: Things you suck at and should NOT be doing


  • Forcing yourself to explore new ideas, new people and possibilities
  • Forcing yourself to be more imaginative, inventive and innovative
  • Trying to see the big picture
  • Spending time trying to energize people
  • Seeing what possibilities may exist in the future
  • Playing “what if” games with Intuitive Types
  • Trying to think outside the box
  • You need to have people in your life to help you see possibilities and alternatives since this is an area you are going to struggle with

Baby in the Back Seat: Where you go under deep stress or when someone has hurt you


  • You hide from the world
  • You might obsessively goes over details, facts and data in your head
  • You abandon your normal Extroverted Feeling self and retreat into your thoughts
  • You may not want to leave the house or be around people
  • You internally process logic and data over and over
  • You feel icky and gross, as if you have lost your mojo
  • You repel people by being in your head and not your heart